If the Abuse is Ongoing

Breaking the chains of abuse – parallels between domestic violence and ritual abuse.

The strong attachment bonds, psychological and emotional abuse, often combined with trauma bonding, can be understood and undone. Healing is possible.

If you think about studies on domestic violence, you will recall that the abused person often returns to the abuser, perhaps because they are too afraid not to, perhaps because they hope against hope that this time it will be different. The abuser may turn regretful and apologetic and things may be better for a short period of time. But the abuse inevitably returns, and often is more violent. The sweet talk is the carrot, the stick is the threat of dire consequences for disobedience. It’s the same with cults. - Jean http://ritualabuse.wordpress.com

This article may be triggering.

Ritual Abuse

There is a blog entry on Labor Day at https://ritualabuse.wordpress.com/2013/08/20/labor-day/

I haven’t ever blogged about this, at least that I can remember. The closest I have come is writing about how to handle harassing phone calls, which, after all, are cues to show up for more abuse.

I wonder why. I think it is because it breaks my heart that some of us think we have escaped, but haven’t. When a friend has unexplained bruises or little burns in strange places, I get really upset. Or when they start remembering recent abuse, perhaps after a long stretch of safety.

I’d like to believe that each and every one of us has broken with our perpetrators, worked through all the cues and programming, and disarmed all the triggers once and for all. That would mean we never could be hurt in this way again, we never could be abducted and reprogrammed…

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Non-State Torture – what is it? Is it Ritual Abuse?

“In abuse, the goal is to control a person. In torture, the intentionality is to destroy the sense of self of the person.” This is dissociation. “We know that soldiers who’ve endured torture, even if they didn’t dissociate as children, they’ll become dissociative as adults.”
– Linda MacDonald, http://nonstatetorture.org

Non-state torture is torture which is not committed by the state (i.e., government, or military leaders /dictatorships).
Ritual Abuse-Torture is one form of non-state torture.

Non-state torture is torture committed, for instance, by parents, spouses, other kin, guardians, neighbours, trusted adults, or strangers in the private sphere, for example, in homes, warehouses, cabins, rented buildings, in fields, or in various public and private places. 

Non-state torture is torture committed, for instance, by parents, spouses, other kin, guardians, neighbours, trusted adults, or strangers in the private sphere, for example, in homes, warehouses, cabins, rented buildings, in fields, or in various public and private places.

Torturers intentionally attempt to destroy the personality of the person they victimize. 

Torturers intentionally attempt to destroy the personality of the person they victimize.

Read the rest of the interview http://bornepress.com/naming-the-unspeakable-non-state-torture/

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Book Review: A Coloring Book of Healing Images for Adult Survivors of Child Abuse

Coloring and healing book released by Dr Ellen Lacter

Ritual Abuse

You can read the introduction and order the book through http://colortoheal.com

The year ends on a high note for wonderful RA/MC books!!!

This book was a good five years in the making and it is absolutely gorgeous. The paper is really heavy, so you can use watercolor pencils or pastels as well as crayons and colored pencils. That’s inviting for adult and teens parts as well as child parts, who usually get to do all the coloring. (Not fair!)

The book is designed for all survivors of child abuse, but there are many sections that speak directly to multiplicity and ritual abuse. It’s hoped that it will tap into the immense inner strength and wisdom that survivors possess and to help make these resources recognized at a deeper level, cherished, and celebrated in all aspects of life and self.

There are seventeen chapters, each organized around a theme like safety…

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Not demons but dissociation

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this post contains references to Christianity (it is written by a priest), and mentions cult abuse (no descriptions of abuse)

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Ravi Holy describes his personal route through healing, discovering he has dissociative identities (D.I.) and the reality of life after.

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Working with Cult – RA – Mind Control and Extreme Torture and Abuse

This is an important topic and fear of discussing it and fear of facing such trauma can stop survivors healing.

The comments at the end are especially valuable, as is Kathy’s point that internal people aren’t the ones who create the original traumas – they are the ones who had to survive it.

Supporting survivors of ritual abuse

Discussing Dissociation

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“Have you worked with clients that have ‘extreme torture’ trauma history in cult-RA and/or mind-control (governmental experiments)? If so, what has worked?”
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Thanks for the question.  What a doozy!!!

Yes, I have worked with trauma survivors that have talked about extreme torture, cult / RA abuse, mind control and governmental experiment traumas.  Bunches of clients through the years have spoken in detail about many of these things.  All of these survivors have also presented with Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID/MPD), as these extreme, sadistic tortures cause splits to occur.

That’s the easy part to answer.  The harder question is addressing the “what has worked” part!

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And since this is a ritual holiday weekend, I thought this might be a good time to address these extreme abuses.  I am sure that many of my readers have been experiencing difficult memories and flashbacks this weekend.  It’s…

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