If something bad happens, do you normally think it is your fault and search for what you did wrong?
Many survivors of child abuse automatically blame themselves for anything bad, and feel guilty and ashamed most of the time – especially about anything related to their immediate family.
Can you remember how old you were when you first felt this way?
Where do our feelings of guilt and shame come from?
Darlene, a survivor of multiple types of child abuse, explains one of the things that gave her the core belief that bad things were always her fault, and that the abuse was her fault.
- “It’s my fault. It’s always my fault” – Self-blame
- Self-blame, denial, avoidance and the desire to be “normal”
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