DO NOT ABANDON YOURSELF. The holidays are a time for self-care too, take care not to repeat childhood patterns of ignoring your feelings. They matter. You matter.
Too late for Thanksgiving, but just in time for coping with the next round of holidays, I discovered An Adult Child Abuse Survivor’s Guide to the Holidays. This article is so amazing : practical, empowering, empathic with just the right amount of humor. I love the key idea “Don’t Abandon Yourself”. Although written with adult survivors of abuse contending with families of origin, including perpetrators, it really could be invaluable for anyone from a dysfunctional family of any sort. Or even just useful strategies for keeping in touch with yourself and grounded while dealing with anyone challenging for you.
I like this so very much I want to share an excerpt here. I highly encourage reading it in full. Tremendous thanks to Grace Davis for this gem of a resource.
First, and most importantly, this is the primary principle to follow when you’re in the presence of perpetrators and…
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