Updated:—-Coping with Trauma Related Dissociation, ——- Anger!!!!!

Some thoughts on anger and the need to avoid (phobia) of expressing anger.

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Specific parts of you personality may be angry and are usually easily evoked.  because these parts are dissociated, anger remains an emotion that is not integrated for you as a whole person.  Even though individuals with dissociative disorder are responsible for their behavior, just like everyone else, regardless of which part may be acting, they may feel little control of these raging parts of themselves.

Some dissociative parts may avoid or even be phobic of anger.  They may influence you as a whole person to avoid conflict with others at any cost or to avoid setting healthy boundaries out of fear of someone else’s anger; or they may urge you to withdraw from others almost completely.

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Parts of you are phobic of anger and generally terrified and ashamed of angry dissociative parts.  There is often tremendous conflict between anger-avoidant  and anger-fixated parts of an individual.  Thus, an internal…

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2 thoughts on “Updated:—-Coping with Trauma Related Dissociation, ——- Anger!!!!!

  1. Tis is a great book, brought a deeper understanding of dissociation and then explained stuck parts, from childhood trauma. Anger was not an emotion that was familiar for me, a violent narcissistic dad, did not leave time for me to express anger. So anger was stuck, a stranger until it was integrated to current moment.

    Another excerpt:

    Coping with Trauma-Realted Dissociation;
    Usually their are parts of the personality that hold anger and rage that are unacceptable or very frightening to other parts. Some may resemble people ffrom the past who were abusive.
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    These parts shame, threaten, or punish other parts inside, or they may direct their anger to other people in the outside world. Although the behavior of these parts can be quite frightening or shameful, as well as unacceptable, it is important for you to understand that these parts have good reason to exist and are representations, and thus not the same as the people who hurt you.
    They originally developed to protect you by containing many distressful experiences of anger, helplessness, and sometimes guilt. or shame.
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    Furthermore, their function often is to prevent other parts behaving in a way that, in the past, evoked fear or shame. Over time it is important to appreciate why they exist, even though their “methods” that is, their behavior and attitudes, may not be acceptable.
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    Your fear and shame about about these parts must be overcome in order for you to heal. These parts like all parts of yourself, need to become part of an internal “team” that collaborate and represent you as the whole person and your own history. And once they do so, you will be surprised at what tremendous help they will be to you.

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  2. I have about twelve posts, sort of a series on this subject and book.
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    from the book; Coping with Trauma-related Dissociation
    “A central problem for people who have a dissociative disorder is that parts of the personality avoid each other and their painful memories and experiences, or they tend to have strong conflicts with each other. * In the literature this has been described as phobia of dissociative parts. Parts typically feel fearful, ashamed, or repulsed by other parts. * In particular dissociative parts that function in daily life want as little as possible to do with dissociative parts that are fixed in traumatic experiences. * Parts stuck in trauma-time often feel abandoned and neglected by the parts that try to move on without them in daily life”.
    Abandoned and neglected, no not us!!! Maybe this is another reason conscious thought or words can not reach our stored trauma.

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