We’ve had a bizarre request via the submit button on our tumblr blog http://traumaanddissociation.tumblr .com which is the perfect topic for the post I have been planning on Dr Jennifer Freyd’s concept of DARVO.
Dr Freyd states that
DARVO refers to a reaction perpetrators of wrong doing, particularly sexual offenders, may display in response to being held accountable for their behavior. DARVO stands for “Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender.”
The perpetrator or offender may Deny the behavior, Attack the individual doing the confronting, and Reverse the roles of Victim and Offender such that the perpetrator assumes the victim role and turns the true victim into an alleged offender.
This occurs, for instance, when an actually guilty perpetrator assumes the role of “falsely accused” and attacks the accuser’s credibility or even blames the accuser of being the perpetrator of a false accusation.
Here are some sections part of what we were sent (privately), which shows the D-A-R-V-O technique in practice.
- “immoral and intolerant” to jail pedophiles for life (!) – Attack
I believe it is immoral and intolerant to sexually abuse children or to let those who have done so out of jail to abuse more children
- “Pedophilic disorder is a recognized mental disorder” – Deny
Here’s what this pro-pedophile blogger said about pedophilia being a disorder in the DSM5 manual, which can be diagnosed from a desire alone to have sexual contact with children.
Denying the harm of it because it is a “mental disorder” – it is not a sexual orientation as YOUR tumblr blog stated, you also stated that classifying pedophilia as a mental disorder is “unnecessary”. It is described as a paraphilia – which I believe means a sexually deviant behavior – I notice he claims that the fact it is a sexually deviant behavior is “irrelevant” in discussing the DSM.
- “I believe that your intent was to talk about child abusers — people who cause childhood trauma. ” Minimization – a minor form of denial
Hurricanes, auto accidents and earthquakes cause childhood trauma; pedophiles cause child abuse, and the mental disorders that stem from it. They are not comparable, in Posttraumatic stress disorder the effects are more devastating if the trauma is caused by a person’s deliberate actions rather than a natural disorder. Raising awareness of these is a key part of the Trauma and Dissociation project. This isn’t so much about DARVO but is a technique called minimization – child abuse is referred to as trauma in order to minimize it. The words “sexual” or “rape” never appear.
It is also interesting that the person believes he can tell our intent. and attempts to re-define this by diverting from child abuse to trauma.
- However, as I said, many pedophiles do not abuse children. I personally know many who this applies to.” Deny
so, they TELL you they do not abuse children, but you are OK with knowing MANY people who are sexually attracted to children? And you run a blog dedicated to pedophile news and to persuading people that pedophiles are not all harmful and are sadly misunderstood.
There is no evidence of any harmless pedophiles in this statement. Nearly all convicted pedophiles pleaded not guilty prior to sentencing or changed their pleas at the last moment. Example – BBC employee Stuart Hall’s sexual abuse of a 9 year old and rapes of women.
5. Imagine you are a person who feels sexually attracted to children. Reverse
I cannot imagine that. Sexual attraction to children is abhorrant and a deviant behavior. Should anyone I care for feel this way I personally would want them to be kept away from all children, which only seems possible in jail. To put anyone (including yourself) above a child’s safety is not acceptable. To support those who put their child or other’s children at risk is also totally wrong in my view.
6. You know that acting on that attraction is wrong, but you can’t change how you feel.
Pedophiles rarely WANT to change, which is why they need LOCKING UP FOR LIFE. Your own blog is not about recovery from pedphilic disorder or options for treatment – in fact I’ve not yet seen a blog that is. There are many blogs of recovering from mental disorders such as depression, eating disorders, etc, which you attempt to compare pedophilia to.
- trigger warning – remember this was not sent to you personally *
- “Now imagine you see blanket hatred applied towards ‘pedophiles,’ a class of people that includes yourself and other good people you know. ” Reverse
This attempt to classify the unknown reader is a pedophile is a reversal tactic – it may be designed to trigger child abuse survivors into horror and avoidance, or it may be another way of getting the reader to see the Offender’s side. Either way the distraction of the distress such a false accusation causes can mean the reader spends time doubting and questioning themselves, rather than continuing the work of campaigning about child abuse. “Hatred” was not represented in the poster so this is an extra false statement, there was no name-calling just a statement to jail them for life in order to reduce the harm caused by their abuse.
Any “good people I know” who are found to be pedophiles were not “good people” and I won’t want to continue to know them, unlike your pedophile pals.
Some wise words once said to me: ABUSERS LIE.
- You run a blog about trauma, so your lack of empathy for my kind is harder for me to ignore Victim-> Offender
A clear personal attack on a lack of “empathy” for pedophiles based on the fact they have a mental disorder, as well as making the mistake that this is a single person’s blog rather than a project run by many different people, followed by thousands of people. “You” feels like an attempt to single out and isolate the reader personally, which is what sex offenders often do. The message was sent via the Submit form instead of blogged or added to a note – which would have given others the chance to offer support. Clearly this person does not want that to happen.
Remember: this blogger is talking about “empathy” but doesn’t think it’s even necessary to have pedophilia classed as a mental disorder. He also sent a picture of the DSM psychiatric manual to enforce this. The reversal is here – “if you support one mental disorder, you must support them all” regardless of the fact that one is associated with criminal activity and harming children, and others are associated with the coping with that harm. Clearly if pedophilia did not exist several Dissociative Disorders would be virtually eradicated (since they are principally caused by abuse, not trauma) and rates of Trauma disorders and many other mental health disorders such as depression, borderline personality disorder, anxiety and more would rapidly decrease.
Note: Pedophiles are child rapists! Where is their empathy for children? Where is their desire for treatment? The person continually uses the excuse of lack of PROVEN child abuse as a claim of innocence, sounds very, very familiar…
9. So I ask of you, please remove that post, or at least change the wording from ‘pedophiles’ to ‘child abusers.
Pedophiles ARE child abusers, many of them do not get caught, they belong in JAIL where they cannot abuse children. This message tells me how important it is to continue posting about child abuse.
why would anyone think we would possibly consider stopping our anti-pedophile posts because they upset pedophiles/pedophile supporters?
This just shows that talking about the HARM OF CHILD ABUSE and the DANGERS OF PEDOPHILES has a real impact on people. Let’s keep doing it. Please share everyone & repost/reblog.
About the blogger who messaged us
I refuse to publicly name his tumblr blog since I don’t wish to increase his visits or publish audience. However, checking out his tumblr blog reveals that he now just reposts on tumblr from another platform after having his blogs repeatedly banned by tumblr. It also contained how to report such blogs on tumblr.
Tumblr blogs depicting inappropriate posts involving children can be reported to
which is the only useful thing I learnt from this blogger, and naturally we will be blogging this too. Tumblr does not block people but you can set them to your Ignore list.
He also launched into a long and angry attack on tumblr staff, including counter-accusations – DARVO again! The issues is not about his/her unacceptable posts about children but about the finer details of the tumblr conditions of service or the lack of warnings, etc.
So – here is another copy of the poster we were asked to removed. Hardly controversial!
- Jail pedophiles for life
Since pedophiles network, it’s no great surprise to see them on tumblr trying to convince people that pedophiles are harmless, falsely accused victims or some other nonsense. The internet is also reportedly a very useful tool for sexually exploiting children and viewing images of children being sexually abused (which they refer to as “pornography”).
About Dr Jennifer Freyd, creator of DARVO
Dr Jennifer Freyd is best known for a well respected professor in the field of trauma and dissociation at the University of Oregon. She is ditor of Editor the Journal of Trauma & Dissociation, run by the ISST-D, who are the world-wide experts in the field of trauma and dissociation.
Secondly, she is known for being the daughter of the False Memory Syndrome Foundation’s former director Pamela Freyd, who setup the organization with her husband Peter Freyd after Jennifer began to talk about her memories of sexual abuse and rape at the hands of her father. Jennifer’s reports of sexual abuse was believed by her grandmother – Peter Freyd’s mother – and his brother, and they publicly supported her. So her parents began a campaign of harassment against Jennifer, advertising for other “falsely accused” parents to campaign with them, and they attempted to create a psychiatric syndrome which labelled their children’s reports of abuse as false and their children as sick and unstable, rather than themselves as child abusers. Amazingly many people fell for this story, mostly unaware that Jennifer’s parents are in fact step-brother and step-sister, and grew up in the same household. It is also well known that incest often occurs in multiple generations in the same family.
So, Dr Freyd knows a great deal about the tactics of pedophiles and their supporters.
If you were considering leaving a comment in support of pedophiles then we won’t be publishing that comment.
- Unhelpful core beliefs a a result of Childhood Trauma (traumadissociation.wordpress.com)
- False Memory Syndrome Foundation Fades – The Recovered Memory Project (brown.edu)
- What is DARVO? (Dr Freyd, oreogon,edu)
- DARVO; Deny, Attack and Reverse Victim and Offender (sexaddictioninct.wordpress.com)
- http://www.forensicpsychiatry.ca/paraphilia/overview.htm (paraphilias from forenscipsychiatry.ca)
- Poland archbishop slammed over sex abuse comments (bigstory.ap.org – victim blaming)
- Virtual Child “Sweetie” Used To Catch Pedophiles Around The World Stalking Pre-Teen Children (americanlivewire.com)